Interior design can be a complex and emotional process for couples, especially when they don’t share the same design style. To create a home that represents both of you and your life together, it’s essential to keep communication open, set expectations, and be willing to compromise.
One way to solve this conflict is by discussing your decorating vision and setting expectations. For example, if you want to paint your wife’s favorite room, you may need to ask her opinion and show her some pictures first. This can help you communicate your decorating vision and avoid conflicts.
To create a home that represents you as a couple, it’s important to allow this emotionally-charged process to be. Hiring someone to help you communicate your decorating vision and avoid conflicts can help. Communicate the benefits of having an intentionally designed home by showing how it affects you and painting a picture of how having a well-designed home will benefit you.
Capitalize on occasions and ask for projects as gifts to get your partner more involved in their interior design. For example, you could invite your husband out to dinner and make sure to tell him about the importance of master bedrooms being the woman’s refuge.
Finally, focus on designing a life, not just decorating a home, and focus on feels rather than looks. The absolute worst fights my husband and I have had are over decor decisions. By understanding and embracing compromise, you can create a home that represents you both and your life together.
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📹 How to Declutter Your Husband’s Stuff | Dealing with a Messy Spouse
One of our readers has a spouse and she is working in the living room. But he has this recliner that he always sits in. And it’s got …
My husband’s clutter drives me nuts. We’ve been together for years and he keep on telling me, he will get to those stuff, don’t touch them or I have to give him some time to sort things out. But it’s been more than half a decade but those stuff has been collecting dust for years and while he improved a bit, he still revert back to his old ways.
This hasn’t worked with my husband. He doesn’t mind me tidying up after him. However, he spent put anything away and doesn’t keep his stuff in his space. If he touches anything it ends up in a random location, and he drops clutter all over the house. Second, he loves to shop. He loves to accumulate stuff. For several years I have readily decluttered my stuff. I don’t bring in something new without letting go of something else, and I don’t bring in something new without a reason. I really don’t have much stuff. Every time I try to declutter more because there is just so much stuff… I can only find a small amount of my stuff. My sentimental items take up vet little space, my crafting space takes up a single bedroom closet of a spare room that is also a general storage space for the deep freezer, books, and indoor tools… and it’s a small bedroom. He has an entire bedroom to himself full of items to the point that he gets frustrated when he can’t find anything, and his stuff is finding homes in other areas of the house. His entire side of our bedroom is becoming a catch-all for things he actually uses but can’t fit in his room. This accumulating behavior has been passed on to our 9 year old son who wants to keep everything. I had to have a serious talk with my husband about the example he’s setting with his “stuff” when our son refused to let go of a pair of torn and ineffective winter gloves, even after we bought him new gloves. I’ve been able to kind of work with our son’s belongings partly because I don’t let him look at the group of items I’m decluttering before I go through it, but I do ask him to make a list of what he wants to keep.
What if the husband is the clean one and wife won’t declutter her space? I’ve found only arguments come out of a simple “can you put that away”, referring to something that she has threw on the floor a week ago, is the only thing it takes to start the argument. Have no idea how to deal with this after months of crap laying around. Also, I have to respect her boundaries, can’t touch her stuff, yet she is able to trample over everything I just cleaned. Making my work twice as hard. It doesn’t seem like a healthy (or fair) way of living
My husband is a hoarder and a slob. Our home and yard have been messy for probably 10 years. I decluttered three rooms and two bathrooms, cleaned everywhere and it was looking so wonderful. I do not touch his things as you mentioned in the article, but it’s just too much; I cannot take it anymore. If I throw something of mine away, he retrieves it from the trash. Now he is slowly starting to put his things in rubber tubs, but not getting rid of anything, and putting the tubs in the parts of the house that I have decluttered and cleaned. It’s so frustrating, I’m at my witts end!
Thank you for this article. I have a husband who is like that. He is in a wheelchair and has put a metal cart to put his stuff on as well as a TV tray for eating on. After a while the cart and the tray are piled with “stuff” which really bothers me a lot. He will even put his power tools on the floor beside him. He’s one of those guys who leaves everything where he left it and not put it back. I eventually will tell him he needs to clean his area which most times he’ll do a little bit, but rarely ever gives it a good cleaning. I try not to say anything other than asking him to clean up his area occasionally.
Tracy, What a great “quick win” article! My husband has said to me, “Don’t touch my stuff!” so I only do when he can’t find something & I help him go through his piles. I’ve learned that if I keep control of the incoming mail, tossing what isn’t important to keep & deal with soon, that really has helped prevent the piles from growing so fast. Even the grocery receipts that he piles on the kitchen counter, get picked up by me whenever I see them and they go into my receipt file. My biggest problem is, my husband is the “chief cook and bottlewasher” & grocery-shopper so the kitchen isn’t always accessible to me. Also, I gave him a basket to put his reading materials in, next to his TV-watching chair, about a year ago & it hasn’t been emptied out yet! I guess I’ll have to be a little more patient with that area!